Stand Up For Yourself: Peer Pressure And Drugs (1987)

[Music] [Applause] [Music] 1985 New Waffle Face. >> Marilyn, we're glad you were able to get [Applause] Who is it? Who's there? >> Help. It's not me. >> No. No. Yes. It's not me. Help. Help. >> Help. Help. >> Help. >> I thought you guys were going out. >> We're back. >> Don't get any ideas about hanging around cuz you're not. Okay. >> Little children. I am sorry. This is a PG movie. >> Oh, I've been waiting to see this for so long. Forget it, Nikki. Out. >> Come on. Please. >> No. >> Thanks, God. >> Oh, Louis, maybe we should give little Beaver here a break. You >> did it, JT. Come on. >> No, I'm serious. I mean, what's the big deal? He's cool. Are you cool? >> Yeah, >> right. I mean, the boy is 12. Lewis, think back, man. All right, he can stay. You >> owe me one. You owe me one. >> Okay, let's get this party rolling. >> Let's get this movie watching. >> JT, >> what? >> Will you relax, man? He said he's cool, right, Nick? >> Want some? >> Well, >> I'm thinking I don't know what to do. I mean, I don't want to smoke it, but if I don't, they're going to think I'm a baby. >> There are things that you can do. There are ways to handle pressure. This workshop is to help find ways that will work for you guys. >> Let's see if we can help Nikki out with his problem. What can he do about his brother? >> Well, it sounds to me like his brother's the one with the problem. >> Yeah. Okay. But Nikki has to take care of himself first. What can he do? Well, you could just take the joint and put it out. >> Great. My brother would kill me. >> You could pretend to smoke it and not really do it. >> Nah. >> Look, if you don't want to do it, you should just not do it. >> Well, how do I do that? >> Say no thanks. >> Yeah. >> No thanks. That's all. >> Why not? >> Nikki, what do you think would happen if you tried that? >> Want some? Well, >> are you going to take some more? What? >> No thanks. >> All right. >> A lot of times that's all it takes. A simple no thanks. Just let people know you're not interested. >> Right. >> Hey, Athena, you want a hit? >> No thanks. >> Charlie, how about you? >> No thanks. >> It's all it takes. >> No big deal. What if they keep hounding you? What if they're like, "Come on, come on. Try it." >> Yeah. >> Really? That's exactly what JT would do. When you say no, he thinks you really mean yes. >> Come on now. Give it a try. >> What? Are you afraid that you're going to get caught? Huh? >> No. >> What's the matter then? Go with the flow here. No matter what I say, he keeps trying to persuade me. I mean, I like JT. It's just >> It's just he's putting the pressure on you, right? >> I've got an idea. Let's try something. Tanya, try to get me to take this pack of gum. >> Go ahead. >> Go on. Go for it. You want a piece of gum? >> I don't want it. I know you want a piece of gum. >> Take it. >> I don't want it. Really? >> Take it. >> I don't want it. >> Come on. I know you want a piece of gum. >> I don't want it. >> It's no big deal. >> I don't want it. >> She doesn't want it. >> Go, please. >> That's great. She gave the same reason over and over. >> That's right. It's called being a broken record. Same reason over and over. Here, let's try it. Okay. Uh, make this pen a cigarette. Okay. Hey, Athena, you want to smoke? >> I don't smoke. >> What do you mean? Here, just take it. >> I don't smoke. >> What are you being so uptight about? >> I'm not uptight. >> No, don't argue. Just stick to the broken record. >> What are you being so uptight about? >> I don't smoke. >> What do you mean? Here, just try it. >> I don't smoke. >> Great. >> Good. >> I get it. So, no matter what they say, you just keep saying the same thing over and over. >> Exactly. Come on, Nick. Give it a try. >> I don't want it. >> What? Are you afraid that you're going to get caught? >> I don't want it. >> What's the matter? Come on. Relax. Go with the flow here. >> I don't want it. Really? >> You don't want it? >> I don't want it. >> I don't think he wants it. >> Well, you shut up and watch a movie. JT, >> if you stick with it, eventually the other person's going to give up. Being a broken record means exactly that. Say one thing and stick to it, >> right? You wear them out. Exactly. They're going to get tired of asking. >> Yeah, but what do you do when people I don't know, like make fun of you. >> Like how? >> Well, sometimes people, you know, they tease you. They call you names and stuff and you feel kind of rejected. >> That's happened to you. >> Yeah. >> Go on. >> Okay. There's this girl, right? She's like my best friend. Her name's Lily. Did you see what she was wearing? >> One Saturday, we went to the mall, me, Lily, and this girl Andy, and we bought this great lipstick that we had to try on. So, we go into the restroom. I go, "Michelle, why are you being so uptight?" And she goes, "I am not uptight." And I go, "Michelle, you're one of the most uptight people I know." What do you think? I like it. It needs something. Looks great, Lily. >> Check this out. Is this cool or what? Here. >> What's the matter? >> Nothing. I just Tanya completes the look. I know, but you're so boring, Tanya. She's not always like this, Andy. Usually, she's fun. I'd never smoke a cigarette. My mother would kill me. She's just scared. Yeah, that's really true, Tanya. I don't know why you're so scared of everything. It's just one cigarette. Big deal. I felt betrayed. I mean, she's supposed to be my friend. I don't understand why she was treating me like that. >> Yeah, it's it's really unfair when people do that. What do you do? I mean, I don't want to get in a big fight with her. >> Okay, Denise, you be Lily. Hey, can I have the gum, please? Get me to take the gun. >> Okay. >> Okay. Tease me. >> Okay. Here, take it. >> No thanks. >> What's the matter? Afraid your mother might catch you? Afraid you'll get in trouble with your mommy? I don't like them. It's bad for you. You're such a baby. I don't understand why you just can't relax and stop being so uptight. >> Why are you picking on me? >> What? >> I said, why are you picking on me? >> I don't know. That's great. You pressured her, right? It's called reversing the pressure. He didn't get mad. All he said was, "Why are you picking on me?" >> It's just one cigarette. Big deal. >> Why are you picking on me? >> I'm not picking on you. >> Yes, you are. You're making fun of me. >> I was just joking. You don't have to take it so seriously. >> Hey, you know those shoes at Kimbell's? The pink ones? >> Yes. They're perfect for you, Tanya. Let's go. Come on. Reverse the pressure. Just put the pressure back on them. If they're really your friends, they'll stop teasing you. >> Right. They want to be your friend just as much as you want to be theirs. >> Exactly. >> What about when you go to a party? >> Yeah. I mean, sometimes you go to a party and there's beer, whatever, and you feel, I don't know, like everybody's doing it and I'm not. >> You get to a party and you feel kind of out of it. Let me see if I can explain it. Okay, take last weekend. I got invited to a kind of parents out of town party, right? >> I love it. [Music] >> I get there and I sort of check things out. I see some kids with beers, but I can handle that. I just look around for somebody who isn't drinking and hang out with them. >> Marissa. >> Hi, babe. >> How's it going? >> Pretty good. >> Pretty wild party, huh? >> Yeah. >> My problem is dealing with people like Chad. >> Ben. Marissa, you having a good time? >> Yeah. >> Great party, Chad. >> Pretty boring, actually. But listen, you guys want to have some fun? Definitely. >> Sure. >> Let's check out the real party outside. I was just on my way. You want to come? >> It'll be fun. Come on. Come on. Come on. Come on. Come on. Come on. Come on. >> Sure. >> Great. >> Ben, come on. Now, I want you guys to know that this is special invitation only. So, where are we going? It's over here. You guys are in for a real treat. See, where did I Here we go. Uncle Chad's highly confidential secret stash. Ben, I'll give you the honor and the privilege of being numero uno in line. >> Look, I don't know, Chad. Hey, look, I know Marissa's going to have some, right, Marissa? Sure she is. Okay, man. It's up to you. Let's send this party into orbit. He's got me trapped. I know he's not going to stop pressuring me. You see, it doesn't matter what I say to him because he's not going to listen. >> What if you just leave? Go back to the party. Yeah, just walk away from him. >> Oh, great. That's easy to say. But I can't just turn around and leave. I'd look like a jerk. >> It's not that hard. You just have to do it. Maybe make up some kind of excuse and go. >> Yeah, but Ben's got a point. It's hard to just leave someone. Bye. But like Tanya said, you can come up with a friendly, believable excuse. Somebody's waiting for me. I got to go. And gracefully ease yourself out of the situation. Okay, man. It's up to you. Let's send this party into orbit. >> I got to go back. >> Come on, man. Don't give me that. >> No, seriously. Milton's waiting for me. Look, I'll be inside. Catch you later. Do you want to come, too? I'll walk you back. What is this? I >> I should go. Milton's probably wondering what happened to me, too. >> I thought we were going to party. Go ahead, man. Have fun. Catch you later. >> You know, you could have stayed if you wanted. >> Are you kidding? I just didn't know what to do. Thanks. >> Sure. >> Can I ask you a question? Wait, >> who's Milton? >> I don't know. I used to feel that it was just me, you know, that I was the only one, but that's just not true. I found that a lot of kids want to say no, and a lot of kids do. It's okay. >> I used to be afraid of what my friends would think of me, but I have to like myself. I have to respect who I am. Friends respect you for that. It's like the best friend I have is me. >> Really? There's lots of ways to say no. Try them. Stand up for yourself. Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. Let's get out of here. >> Mickey, you want some gum? I don't chew gum. >> You sure? >> I don't chew gum. >> Tanya, you know you're not afraid of a little piece of gum, are you? >> Why you picking on me? >> Ben. >> Hey, Ben. Whoa. >> I got to go. >> What is he? >> Catch you later. [Music]