How To Be A Friend (1978)

use this leader to focus the picture and adjust the sound volume the film will then be ready for correct projection [Music] what do we mean by the word friendship I remember reading somewhere that Ralph Waldo Emerson said the only way to have a friend is to be one well maybe we all have our own meaning but what about making friends and just as important keeping [Music] them what is friendship well for one thing friendship is sharing sharing activities interests or even different opinions here let me show you it's kind of tricky friends offer something to each other hey I guess it's all a knowing [Music] howship is people together and caring a real friendship helps us grow as a person because it's based on trust and respect for each other how are you doing well I wrote this composition do you think you could give me your honest opinion on it I was glad to help Trish she sure helped me with my composition I have a feeling this isn't quite right here you know you should switch these two around trust and respect respect and trust a friendship must have respect and Trust where to meet new people is easy interesting people are everywhere but how do you make friends it might mean that you have to make the first move you can't always expect the other person to some people are shy or not very outgoing by introducing yourself you might open up a whole new world that didn't exist before that's that's how I met Brenda hi you look puzzled what's the subject Algebra 2 I'm having trouble with logarithms oh they can be tough I had that class last semester let's see if I can help you gee thanks that'd be great in getting to know people be understanding of the way they might be different from you just as we'd expect others to be understanding of us Jean and I are really good friends but we have different ideas on a lot of things you know Brenda I think it'd look better if it was a little longer could be but I think I like it the way it is since it is a summer dress well I'm not sure I agree but that's how we'll do it friends share their secrets fears doubts hopes because they know a friend will respect their thoughts or offer sincere advice well Trish all you have to do is ask her if she really said it yeah I guess the simplest way is the best sure Trish then you'll get it straightened out I think I'll talk to her sure sharing our secet our hopes and doubt a friendship let of feeling a friend can offer a different point of view or new information on something that we might not see on our own friends help us to learn since we're working on your bike we might as well Lo the chain it'll ride quieter and it'll keep her from rusting that's a good idea I never thought of that I should really do it more often here let me show you the way I do it great people together and caring many people limit their friendships without realizing it they miss many possibilities with excuses like she's too old or he's not my type it's true that not everyone can be a best friend friend but those kinds of excuses close off chances for new friendships you don't know unless you try and you may be surprised at the friends you'll make and the things you'll learn here's the camera I used to use wow I would like you to see some of the pictures I took with oh great boy these are nice see how clear they are those are nice are they beautiful yes that little boy won't be forgotten I guess well he's getting older he's getting older just over there are isn't that Comico yeah that's just some picture and here's where I used to go to school a friendship works both ways one person doesn't rule over the other they respect each other's rights Brenda Brenda hi since you're going that way I was wondering if you could drop this off at the library deposit for me it's due today and it looks like I won't be able to make it gee I'd really like to Jean but I have to catch the bus downtown it'd be out of my way enough that I might miss the bus no problem I should have done it yesterday I'll see you later then bye G byebye A is to another a friendship does not obligate one another keeping friends is something that has to be worked at for instance I keep in touch with friends who have moved away even if it's just a note to say hi does take much to keep in touch between friends friends show their concern and support for each other just being nearby can be enough as when Jeff was sick one time hi Jeff how you doing done hello I think I live here I brought you a magazine thanks listen you better get well soon we got a big football game coming up concern anding concern anding friends grow together [Music] by Gan and I respect each other's privacy would it be okay if you didn't come over tonight I have some things to do that really can't wait sure call me tomorrow we can get together then great I'll see you for lunch friends are able to let each other go if the time comes people change over the years and sometimes you may no longer have the same interests Shel and I were able to admit [Music] this it's better to remember the good friendship we had in the past instead of trying to force it to still be in the present people change and needs [Music] change friends give thoughtful help when it's needed just because Brenda didn't ask for it didn't mean that she couldn't use it say Brenda a bunch of us are going to the park I stopped by to see if you'd like to come along I'd love to Jean but I told my mom I'd have the kitchen clean before she got home oh well I'll help and then we can both go that'd be great thanks J why don't you grab a towel all [Music] right could mean a lot to someone friends are truthful but polite with each other they can be open and honest and know that the other person will understand you know you were kind of rude to Bob the other day Don he was a little upset how do you mean well the argument you had at the meeting he had a point to make and you weren't listening yeah I guess I did get pretty loud maybe you should call him up he thinks you're mad at him yeah I think I will thanks are true [Music] each a good friend is patient and sensitive when Trisha's father was in the hospital a few months ago she was pretty upset sometimes I just feel like I don't care about my classes or anything you know it's hard to take sure it is I know how you feel Trish yeah I guess you know how it is I remember when your mom got in that car accident sure things work out come on let's go have lunch come on I think it was the English poet Samuel Johnson who wrote to let a friendship die Away by negligence and silence is certainly not wise friendship isn't something to take for granted it's an active process a growth between other people and ourselves it requires effort on our part to make friends to keep friends and above all to be a friend [Music]