How Do You Know It's Love? (1950)

[Music] [Applause] [Music] I love you Nora do you love me well I don't know Jan you're the only girl I've dated in in two months we get along fine you do not me doing I think so but I have to think about [Music] hello dear mama have a nice time I'll say Jess awfully handsome such a smooth dancer mom how can I tell it I mean how did you know when you were in love with dad oh I've been in love several times before I got so I couldn't recognize the symptoms several times mm-hm and each time I thought I'd found my prince charming most of all in love cry two times in their lives how can you tell when you're really well I have to think about that let's save it for tomorrow shall we ah good night good night dear most people fall in love quite a few times I wonder if jack knows that I told you BA I haven't dated any girl but Nora in two months we're really in love oh and you were really in love with Betty and Mary and dollars and I don't know who else and there'll be others I suppose oh no that's over with you no bother nor is the prettiest girl I've ever known she's just as beautiful as beautiful and you think that's all that matters Oh hurry up and get in bed well you know Bob did you feel this way when you found lone Jean oh look I felt that wait lots of time the trouble with you is you don't seem to understand what love is really about you young punks go to the movies a couple of times do a little necking and you think you're in love I've never seen anything like all I wanted to do was ask you don't have to get sore about it do you I'm I'm sorry jack but look at it this way you just haven't been around enough to know what love really is believe me it's nothing like the slush they give you in the movie well I don't know wrong that's right you don't know maybe you would understand better say I've got an ID yeah how'd you like to double-date with Gina me tomorrow night why sure Bob that would be swell show you what mine but if you let me get some sleep now good night good night Oh check that sounds like loads of fun see you tonight goodbye gets what muttered Jack and I are going on a double date with Jack's brother Bob and his girlfriend they're engaged in so much him alone teeny it's the most beautiful time all that's fine there I've met Bob I think he's awfully nice well I do too and speaking of love what you're not going to talk about that today yes we were I've been thinking about your question and well suppose we look at these snapshots together hmm snapshot mm-hmm what do they have to do with love oh I was just thinking that they might help you to understand Oh your capacity for love grows and develops just as you grow and develop here look at this one Oh mother did you have to keep that you know in a way you were in love even then every baby loves its parents for their care and protection of course some people expect that care and protection all their lives they never grow up but it is a kind of love now compare that with this picture oh that's the boy who used to live next door my how he did love his teddy bear that's right that's the kind of love to possessiveness a love for the things you own never get over being possessive when we're in love do we you're beginning to understand now here's a snap that shows how we learn to return love by doing things for others well what about love of our friends isn't that a stage of love yes I think it is here look at this boy that's Betty and Ellen and Ann I took that picture with my first camera oh I know there was a time when I wouldn't look at anyone but my special friend I guess that was a stage of love yes and boys go through a similar stage when they stick together in gangs and won't have anything to do with girls we soon change there now let's see oh do you remember this picture the captain of the football team that was torn three years ago he never knew how much I loved it I guess he never knew I existed at all well we all go through crushes like that on teachers or sports stars or movie stars then after a while there the stage that some people call puppy love but it's more I'd almost completely forgot remember how important it seemed at the time I'll say and it really was important as a part of learning how to love and be loved I think I can tell puppy oh look there's a couple who met at camp last summer I certainly caught them yes and that's another stage for the physical side of love domine sometimes this is mistaken for mature love but there is a difference mature in love that's a new way of thinking about it how can you tell when love is mature well mature love is more mature love has something of the other kind of love in it and something more it's tender unselfish cooperative when I get serious about somebody I want to have that kind of love that's a good idea there and if you aren't sure you can always ask yourself some questions are we really interested in the same things do we feel at ease together are we proud of each other do we agree on the basic things such as religion marriage children money and so thanks mother I know that'll help I hope so dear are we really interested in the same thing do we feel it ease together are we proud of each other are we agreed on basic things I wonder I'm going to watch Bob and Jean see if they have armature alive [Music] yes we sort of found it together you might say and we come here quite often oh the real Chinese dishes are over here oh the season tickets for our concert series and guess what you're going to have to sit through another concert by that young French pianist II didn't right you mean the same one we saw last season that's right maybe this year you'll agree with me that he has real talent well maybe but only if he's improved Oh Bob well at least we'll have fun debating this do Bob and Jean have a mature love are they interested in the same thing I'll say they are they seem to have so many thick hock about and do together say Nora talking about music have you heard the new recording of the Brahms Violin Concerto no I guess I never really learned to appreciate classical our Jack and I interested in the same thing I wondered another question my man do we feel at ease with each other you know there's there's no telling what we don't get it I'm wanting to take a chance if you are oh that's the fun of it Bob what about some of these watercress salad that's a fine idea Bob and Jean certainly are at ease with each other but what about us well I've made up my mind I'm going to have the leg of lamb well I thought it would be fun to try a Chinese dish that's alright if you like that stuff me I'll stick to the land oh come on Nora take a chance with us on the lobster Cantonese oh no I don't always feel at ease with Chan he's so unpredictable I guess I am too we don't really know each other and mom talks about being proud of each other I wonder if I could ever be as proud of Jack as Gina Zafar not right here and now maybe but he does have this point when he gets on that ball diamond anybody would be proud of me but I wonder if we'd ever agree on basic things Jack you know who I saw today I saw Bill Johnson on his wife you know they've got a fine pair of little kids they dress them up like cowboy kids are such fun don't you think so north well here's the waiter without children oh we've never talked about things like that or religion marriage and money Bob and Jean really understand each other they do have a mature life [Music] I talked at the dance in the garden right I guess after seeing Bob and Jean well I think that love a real maturity more than I'd imagined I guess so unbothered Jean it looks alright but we're not ready for that kind of attachment are we but we can still have a lot of fun can't we sure we can would you like how about going rollerskating next Friday night Oh Jack that's a wonderful idea it's the kind of fun I like what time about 8:15 well thanks for the steam night good night [Music]