"Child Behaviour = YOU" 70s parenting film (16mm)

[music] Children learn in many ways. Sometimes through their own mistakes. [music] Um, son. Um, you've forgotten one. [music] No, at the bottom. The bottom. [music] Oh, well, you'll get it right next time. They also learn by imitation. [music] >> [music] >> And they learn by instruction. Children learn how to behave from the adults around them [music] and in particular from their parents. [music] >> [music] >> Learning begins early in life. As parents, you'll have a great influence on your child's behavior. The kind of person your child turns out to be depends a lot on you. >> [screaming] >> Babies cry for a reason. Mother's already fed him, so she knows he's not hungry. And she changed his diaper a few minutes ago and checked the pin. Uh-huh. He wants attention. Do you think she'll pick him up? She did. This baby is learning something important. How to get his mother's attention. Is he going to be the boss in this home? [music] >> Let's see how the mother might have handled the situation. Now, she knows he isn't hungry, wet, or in pain. So, he could be crying to get her attention. I bet you think she's being real mean by taking no notice of him. But wait a while, baby can learn that mother's not going to come running every time he wants to be picked up. >> Oh, >> if a mother makes a fuss of her baby when he's happy and smiling instead of when he's crying or fussing, [clears throat] it won't take him long to learn that crying doesn't pay off, but smiling does. And best of all, he'll be a happier baby. When a baby is in a good mood, his mother can also show her affection by picking him up. [bell] By doing so, she helps him to notice his surroundings. As he begins to take an interest in the things around him, he learns when your baby begins to crawl, his curiosity is liable to lead him into all sorts of mischief. especially if you can't keep an eye on him. >> When you're busy, you may have to put him into a play [screaming] pen. >> Uh-oh. She forgot about ignoring the crying. What she should have done was to make it fun for him to be in the play. Meal times are happy times for you and your baby. >> Eating isn't just a game. You can teach your baby to behave and still have happy meal times. Of course, you're not going to get your baby to eat properly in just one day. But if you give him lots of attention when he's good, then he'll keep on trying to be good even on his own. You'll find that there are lots of things your baby doesn't want to do. [music] >> But if you make them fun, then you'll soon learn to enjoy them. >> So, you see, parents really can affect their baby's behavior and learning. Before you know it, you'll suddenly find you have very active preschoolers underfoot. Whether they're at home or in a nursery, getting along with other children is important. This is the right idea. Giving them a little something when they're being good acts as a reward for good behavior. >> If trouble breaks out, don't lose your clue. Put the youngster by himself until he calms down. Learning to share is a very important part of growing up, but not all children see it this way. >> Ah, well, peace has been restored. They're behaving themselves nicely. I wonder if she will. Good for her. [bell] Although youngsters seem to be all fingers and thumbs, they can usually manage quite well. So there's no need for you to do these things for them. Encourage their attempts and soon they'll succeed on their own. It's a good idea to talk with your children as much as possible, but try to make what you say have some meaning. For instance, telling your youngster to go away doesn't teach him very much. But if you explain that the stove is hot, that he'll get burnt if a pot tips over, then he'll learn something from your conversation. And the more he learns, the better it'll be for him when he starts school. Shy, quiet children should be encouraged to talk. >> Mhm. >> A child who gets approval for trying is more likely to succeed. Some children behave badly, especially in school. A teacher will likely scold the naughty child, and the more she scolds him, the more he misbehaves. The teacher should ignore simple bad behavior. He just wants her attention. And if he doesn't get it, he'll try another way. Now the teacher should give him attention. Parents should share in bringing up children. That's right, Mom. Get him to put away his bike. >> That's it, Dad. And the bat and the glove. What a messy kid. [music] All adults who play some part in raising a child should work together. >> If they're not in agreement, [clears throat] the child will probably be confused about how to behave with other adults. Well, these two won't need a bath tonight. When your children do a job for you and they do it well, make sure they get some sort of praise or even a small reward. On the other hand, if your child misbehaves, make sure that the punishment is fair and effective. Ah, mother's not going to stand for that. This young lady is going to spend some time in her room. [bell] Children are different, even within the same family. It's up to you to find out what reward each one likes best. [laughter] >> This applies to children in the same class, too. And once they've learned good behavior, the rewards can gradually be stopped. Children like to receive attention for a job well done. Ah, that's a pretty good effort. It deserves attention. But this one isn't. It doesn't really deserve her praise. Now her rewards have lost some of their meaning for the children. Unfortunately, some children only receive attention from their parents when they do something wrong. >> Too bad. A little praise from mother for a job well done would have gone over well. >> [music] [music] >> adolescence can be a trying time for children. [music] Not to mention the emotional wear and tear on the adults. >> My fault. The thing is this like he said that in a few minutes. [music] Pride in their own achievements is often all the reward a young person needs, but an occasional pat on the back from you can do wonders [music] for their morale. Young people can earn rewards for others as well as for themselves. This boy's [music] good behavior resulted in his parents letting him bring along some friends. Being with friends is important at this age. Good behavior in a classroom can benefit everyone, but if the whole class suffers because of the misbehavior of one or two students, you can rest assured they'll be punished by the whole class. Children in their teens are eager to get along with others. So, make the home a happy, pleasant place for them to bring their friends. Oh, no. Wait until mother gets a look at this. Ah, it's easy to see a lesson's been well taught in this home. If children have received attention only when they misbehave, they'll probably use the ways they've learned in order to receive attention from other adults. This could lead to serious trouble. There may come a time when your child's behavior gets completely out of hand, and you'll seek the advice of an expert. >> Don't be surprised to find that the expert doesn't have a magic formula. You'll likely be advised, for instance, to ignore the temper tantrums, and if the child bites, kicks, or scratches, to shut her in her room until the behavior ceases. The teacher of this class was advised to give points for good behavior. At the end of the day, those with the most points were allowed to leave early. This method proved workable. Low grades, swearing, >> bedwedding, stealing, fighting, all kinds of problem behavior can be helped by a system of reward or punishment. Remember, every adult in a child's life [music] has a powerful influence on him. The kind of adult your child grows up to be [music] depends on you. [music] >> [music] >> Heat. Heat. [music]