Acting With Maturity (2nd Ed, 1969)

[Music] [Music] have you ever known a fellow like Phil who waited too long to ask a girl to a dance at [Music] school you've got to give him credit for trying but today he's a loser and his friends aren't making it easier for him [Music] another try with no better [Music] luck [Music] [Music] you can't blame Phil for wishing he'd behaved differently thinking back he realizes that his friends might have been able to help him with the problem or at least he could have walked out without pushing people around but that's not what Phil dead and he knows it is he starting to question his actions to wonder whether his behavior was [Music] immature meet Betty moping because no one asked Kur to the dance Saturday night she wants a shoulder to cry on but her mother isn't offering her sympathy she's having too much fun with an old friend she thinks mother always act so silly with Mrs Harris shouldn't they act more like older women no that doesn't seem right either maturity means something more than how old you [Music] are how should women their age act maybe there's no set rule maybe life is made up of different circumstances calling for different kinds of behavior perhaps [Music] relaxed perhaps [Music] respectful perhaps businesslike or perhaps friendly all can be mature actions at the right time and place they're old friends what's wrong with their having fun maturity isn't just how a person acts it's how he and others feel about about those actions everyone feels emotional when something happy [Applause] occurs when something frightening happens or when something tragically funny takes [Music] place but people behave differently some show the first feeling they have and sometimes s their reactions cause pain but other people bring their First Reactions under control quickly try to help or to reason things [Music] out it's no use saying be mature or act maturely there's no rule for maturity in Young young people or adults it's something a person works out on his own perhaps by thinking things over when upset or excited and in the end the more mature the behavior the more pleasant life can be for that person and for others [Music] too George Tom and Hank have been friends for three years long enough to learn each other's sensitive spots for instance though Tom Wants To Be An Athlete he's not too good at [Music] sports okay it's true but Hank is wrong to rub it in it makes Tom mad and he thinks he'd like to fight Hank but he doesn't the conversation changes and the tension is easing [Music] up and now that it's all over Tom feels better glad that he waited and held back instead of making trouble Sully wants to go to her club meeting an hour early that's when they're planting entertainment for the dance but she's got about an hour of geometry homework to do that's her choice the homework or the meeting she tries to work it out on her own maybe she can leave the meeting before it's over come home a little early or maybe her mother will let her stay up late after the meeting to do her homework maybe that'll be okay or or maybe she can come to the meeting late but still get in on planning the entertainment maybe that'll be all right with the girls maybe not is there a different solution maybe Margo Carlson will let her copy her homework it's an easy way out but she knows it's wrong Sally doesn't want to ask about staying up late and she's afraid to come to the meeting late and the situation is more difficult because the choices are not equally mature ones here is Phil again remember he was looking for a date well he's got one with Betty he doesn't especially like her but she's [Music] okay you guessed it someone he really does like is call back she can make it to the dance after all will he go with Betty Who said yes first or the other girl that he likes better whatever he does will take some mature thinking in a way that's what maturity is thinking before moving considering other people's feelings facing up to tough situations that's what maturity is all [Music] about